So now that you know what is happening to your body and your mind, are you more convinced that alcohol is the wrong choice for you? If not, ...
Alcoholics Always Hurt The Ones They Love

Alcoholics Always Hurt The Ones They Love

Alcoholics Always Hurt The Ones They Love

So now that you know what is happening to your body and your mind, are you more convinced that alcohol is the wrong choice for you? If not, maybe looking at what it is doing to your life will help. When considering your life let's look at two main areas: your family (or relationships) and your work.

You may not have a family of your own, but chances are you come from one. If you are estranged from them, then maybe you have friends that create a substitute family. Either way, you probably have people that are close to you, people that you love and that love you. How is your alcohol issue affecting them? You may be very surprised.

If you have a significant other, then your alcohol abuse is affecting them. Let's be honest, they are suffering. Why is that? Because they love you, but you... well, you love alcohol more. How do you show them that? You neglect them, you are insensitive to their needs and feelings, you may even abuse them (if not physically then mentally).

You choose alcohol over them every day. How do they feel? They feel isolated, they feel depressed, they feel stress for covering for you with family, friends, or at work. Your alcohol abuse is tearing them apart. You may not notice. They may hide it from you, but it is happening. They may be struggling with a decision every day. They may be staying now, but they may be contemplating leaving you. Whatever happens, the scars caused by your alcohol abuse are marking your significant others’ life. Do you not feel sorry for them and yourself?

Do you have children? The effects are much the same. They suffer from the unpredictability of their childhood in turmoil. What happens to the children of an alcoholic parent? Often these children are withdrawn and unable to interact with their peers. They feel guilty because they feel your alcohol problem is their fault. They feel helpless that they can't fix you. They feel neglected and alone. They experience depression and a fear of abandonment. Often they develop addiction issues of their own later in life. You may be passing on your issues with alcohol to them. You are affecting them and making their life harder than it needs to be. Harder than it should be.

Frankly stated, your alcohol abuse affects the ones you love in devastating ways, even your friends feel something. Often they feel helpless because they can't save you and guilty because they may need to walk away. You must learn how to stop drinking!

  • Do you really want to hurt the ones you love?
  • Do you want to end up alone?

Sometimes knowing that alcohol is hurting you is not enough. Knowing that the ones you love are in pain may be the wake-up call you to need.

Hopefully, your alcohol abuse has not cost you your job. It has, I am sure, caused issues with it. Even at the beginning of your alcohol journey, you might have been late or missed work because you were drunk or hungover. You may have offered a poor performance while on the job and missed out on promotions or raises. You may not have the ability to get a good job. You may have financial difficulties. These could increase if you develop health issues because of your alcohol abuse. If you find yourself drinking and driving you may incur legal fees or face probation or jail. Alcohol abuse hits you financially and you may not even realize it.

So, your alcohol abuse hurts the ones you love and it hurts you as well. So why are you continuing on this road of destruction?

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10 Steps to Get You Alcohol Free

10 Steps to Get You Alcohol Free

10 Steps to Get You Alcohol Free

Here's how you do it. Ready?

1. Admit it!

Admit right now that you have a problem with alcohol. I mean really admit it. Speak it. Write it down. Draw a picture of it. Whatever it takes, just declare out loud that today is the day that you are quitting drinking and you are going to learn how to stop drinking. 

Tell the ones you love about your plan. Don't say you are going to try to stop drinking, tell them that you are quitting alcohol for good. Promise them, but more importantly, promise yourself. Now is the time to make your life better and make up for what has come before. Stop drinking. Do it now. That means to pour the alcohol out. Throw the alcohol away. It is time for the alcohol-free zone.

2. Question yourself

OK, now ask yourself a few questions.

  • Why did it get out of hand?
  • What triggered your desire for alcohol then and what drives it now?

By asking yourself these questions you can learn to understand what to watch out for when it comes to drinking. It may be difficult to avoid alcohol all the time. It is a good idea at the beginning of this process to try to do just that. Avoid the temptation. Keep alcohol out of your home. Don't go to a bar or an event where there is alcohol. 

If you have communicated your desire to stop drinking with those close to you, ask them to help you with this process. Chances are they have wanted you to stop drinking for a while and will help you avoid alcohol and understand when you need to. You need to make your home an alcohol-free zone and everywhere you go.

3. Learn from it

Even though you don't want to dwell on the past, it is a good idea to learn from it. Remember the bad times when you were drinking. It might be tempting to remember only the good times, but both you and I know there were far more bad times. Times you were sick. Times you passed out. Times you hurt your loved ones. Times you hurt yourself. Don't hate yourself for those times. Hate the alcohol that made those times possible. Hate it so much that you banish it from your life.

4. Discover your motives

Ask yourself why you are really quitting. I have gone over the effects alcohol has and can have on you and the ones you love. Some of those could be the reasons why you want to stop drinking. You may have a different one, one person to just you. The point is that it has to be your reason for quitting. It won't work any other way. Don't quit for your family or your friends. 

You will only resent them for depriving you of something that you want or have actually come to need. Yes, take into consideration what you are doing to them and use that to motivate your choice, but if you don't want to stop you won't. It has to be your choice. Is it? Then state your reason and focus on that. Say it to yourself when you get up in the morning and when you go to bed at night. Tell it to yourself when the urge to drink comes on. Tell the ones you are close to. Tell strangers. Write it down. Post it where you can see it. Just decide why you want to quit and then do it. Make the commitment to change.

5. Mean it

Watch what you say. What does that mean? It means to make positive statements when it comes to stopping drinking. None of that "I'm trying to stop drinking." That is not convincing anyone, not even yourself. You need to say "I am quitting drinking." That is a positive statement. That is a powerful statement. 

That sounds like you mean it. Influence yourself by declaring your positive actions. Shout it out to the rooftops that you are taking control of your life and you are living alcohol-free. Go ahead, brag about it even. Being alcohol-free is a big step and a difficult one. You deserve to be proud of what you are setting out to do.

6. Self-talk

Watch what you say in part two. Not everything you say it out loud. You have an internal voice. What are you telling yourself? Self-talk can be positive or it can sabotage what you are trying to accomplish. In the past, your self-talk has probably been negative. You have beaten yourself up over your drinking and the way you have acted while under the influence. 

Remember that you influence you. Remind yourself of what you are trying to accomplish. Constantly remind yourself that you are not letting alcohol ruin your life. Remember what your reason for giving up alcohol is. Believe in yourself and keep up the positive self-talk. Get the negative thoughts out of your head. Only let in the positive thoughts that tell you that you are not drinking. Tell yourself that you deserve an alcohol-free life full of possibilities and that you deserve a future.

7. Visualize the bad

Use your visual mind. You have already done this when you recalled the bad times that came when you were drinking. Try this exercise: Think of your favorite alcoholic beverage. Maybe it is a glass of wine, a mug of beer, or a shot of something stronger. Imagine the alcohol is filled with dirt, bacteria, or some other nasty substance. 

Picture it in your mind. Lock it in. The next time you feel the urge to drink, pull up this picture in your mind. Add this to the recollection of all the things alcohol cost you and all the bad times that came from drinking and this should help you combat the urge to drink when it arises. Add this to the positive self-talk you have developed and you can be strong enough not to drink.

8. Imagine your new future

Everyone has a fantasy of what they wish their life could be. You may dream about it. Just as you can use bad images to help fight the urge to drink, you can use positive images to help encourage your alcohol-free life. Did you know that you are truly lucky right now? By stopping drinking you are making a huge change in your life. You are creating a new you. Who wouldn't want to be a more improved version of themselves, right? What do you want to look like? Who do you want to be? Who is the best you? Take the time to picture the "you" that you have always longed to be. Now is the time to be the real you, the best you. Are you happy? Are you healthy? Are you in a relationship? Do you have the job you want? Are you proud of yourself? You can be what you want to be by saying goodbye to alcohol. Picture yourself alcohol-free and the "you" that you want to be is within your grasp.

9. Take stock

Take stock of your life hour by hour, day by day, week by week, and month by month. You get the picture. What was your routine when you drank? I am sure alcohol dominated most of your waking life. If you weren't drinking at the moment, you were probably thinking about your next drink. That is very time-consuming. 

What is left of that routine when you take the alcohol out? I'm sure a lot of unused time. What can you put in its place? Substitute the healthy for the bad. Fill it up with people who care about you and things you enjoy. Stay busy. Plan your life in the beginning. It will help you stay on track. Fill it with productive activity and no alcohol. Soon you will be able to handle unplanned time without feeling the urge to fill it with alcohol. Until then, stay busy and see all the things you now have time for that you didn't have time for before.

10. Get rid of the negative

Make sure you take all the negative things out of your life. This may be hard for some people. For others, it may feel like a welcome relief. This even means looking at the relationships you have. No more drinking buddies. No more negative people who do not believe in you. It is very difficult to stop drinking. It can be even harder without a good support system. 

If you are going to remove alcohol from your life you may have to remove people the same way you needed to remove situations. You are changing your life for the better. Don't apologize for that. Just keep making every part of your life positive - it is for the best. Bid farewell to everything and everyone that can influence you to choose alcohol again. Chances are you won't miss anything you walk away from. That includes alcohol.

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Alcohol Is Attacking Your Body

Alcohol Is Attacking Your Body

Alcohol Is Attacking Your Body

Take a deep breath. Let's look at what alcohol is doing to your body. I am sure that you are aware that alcohol can have some pretty harmful effects on the body. You may be feeling them right now. As with all things, the physical effects of alcohol abuse can be different for every drinker. Here are just a few that could be happening to you now or on the horizon for your future.

First, did you know that alcohol is considered a volatile liquid?

This means it is easy to burn and contains carbon and hydrogen. You are putting something combustible in your body.

Alcohol is a depressant. It depresses your central nervous system. Alcohol is passed through your stomach on intake and then travels to your intestines. It is rapidly absorbed through your body. It is absorbed through your blood. It affects your whole body and causes impairment even when only a little is consumed.

As alcohol is absorbed into your body, you feel these effects in this order:

  • euphoria
  • excitement
  • confusion
  • stupor
  • comma
  • death

Obviously the more you consume, the further risk you have for each stage. Most people drink and feel the effects of euphoria, excitement, and confusion. That's the fun part of drinking. That is its allure. For the alcoholic, it turns into something far darker. Stupor, coma, and death are real risks for a person who has a problem with alcohol. Yes, death can come from alcohol abuse. You may think that is a far-off concern, but it could be closer than you think. You may be one blackout away. If you drink and drive, your odds are so much higher.

A few factors come into play when looking at drinking:

What does your body look like? Your body weight and body type are factors in how alcohol affects you and how it is absorbed.

How much do you drink at one time or during the course of the day? How fast do you take it in? Rate and quantity of consumption are also factors. The more you drink, the more alcohol you absorb and the more damage you do to your body.

So what type of damage does alcohol cause the body?

Here are a few things you have to look forward to if you keep on drinking. I would hope that death was a powerful enough deterrent, but in case it isn't, here they are:

  • cardiovascular disease
  • chronic pancreatitis
  • alcohol liver disease
  • cancer
  • coronary heart disease
  • hyper tension
  • heart attacks and strokes
  • gallbladder disease
  • kidney stones
  • sexual dysfunction
  • hormonal in-balance
  • diabetes

If you ask me that is a pretty frightening list. By continuing to drink, you are basically allowing your body to fall apart around you. None of these ailments is anything to look forward to. If you are reading this because you want to learn how to stop drinking, but are afraid you won't be able to do it, I hope these physical effects scare you into not turning back. Still, hesitating? Keep reading!

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 Alcohol And Pregnancy: How Does It Affect Your Baby?

Alcohol And Pregnancy: How Does It Affect Your Baby?

Alcohol And Pregnancy: How Does It Affect Your Baby?

Because most pregnancies are unplanned, many alcoholic mothers expose their unborn babies to extreme risks due to alcohol consumption.

Potential mothers should be aware of the risks associated with an unplanned pregnancy and the use of alcohol.

You see, when alcohol is absorbed into the mother’s bloodstream, it can easily cross the placenta and expose the baby to alcohol.

Because the baby’s organs are not fully developed, they have difficulty clearing alcohol from its system and this can potentially cause harm to the baby,

Some of the effects of alcohol on the baby include:

  • -Premature birth
  • -Low birthweight
  • -Cognitive and physical deformities
  • -Heart defects
  • -Effects that happen later in the child’s life such as aggression and behavioral problems.
  • -Worst case scenario: Fetal Alcohol Syndrome

So what is the limit on alcohol if you are pregnant? Our advice: Don’t drink at all or don’t get pregnant. It's just not worth putting your child at risk.

Are you planning to have kids? If so, now is a good time to stop drinking alcohol.

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 5 Simple Tips to Stop Drinking to Excess

5 Simple Tips to Stop Drinking to Excess

5 Simple Tips to Stop Drinking to Excess

Some schools of thought advocate complete abstinence from alcohol for recovering alcoholics while others feel that drinking in moderation may more effective in maintaining long-term recovery from alcoholism. That being said, learning how to control your drinking alcohol is a must for everyone who habitually drinks alcohol. Here are some tips to stop drinking alcohol in excess.

1. Keep an Alcohol Diary

To get an accurate idea of your drinking patterns, keep track of your alcohol intake for a week, including the time of day, your mood at the time, type and amount of alcohol consumed, and the setting. For example, 4 beers, tired and stressed with co-workers at happy hour after work. Documenting your alcohol intake is the first step towards controlling your consumption of it.

2. Know Your Limits

Everyone has different tolerances for alcohol. Generally speaking, experts recommend no more than one drink per day for women and no more than two drinks a day for men. But there are always exceptions to the rule, so know your own limits and avoid drinking more than you can responsibly handle.

3. Say No

Although drinking alcohol may be a major part of your social life, learning to say no is an important step in stopping excess consumption of alcohol. Nobody is going to say that you are a wimp for not drinking alcohol, on the contrary, they’ll probably applaud your decision to do the responsible thing. You can also “cheat” by drinking water in between drinks or cutting your hard liquor with water or a spritzer.

4. Get a Friend Involved

If you know you are going to be around alcohol, set a limit for yourself before you head out. Tell a friend or set a personal alarm on your phone so you’ll know when to stop drinking. Make yourself accountable for your drinking habits but get a friend involved to help you stick to that goal.

5. Avoid Temptation

Provide a rule not to drink alcohol at home. Instead, save it for a special occasion, such as a party or dinner out. The less alcohol you have around, the less likely you’ll be tempted to drink to excess.

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 Tips Stop Drinking : Choosing Your Path

Tips Stop Drinking : Choosing Your Path

Tips Stop Drinking : Choosing Your Path

Where are you right now? Have you come to get a better life? Down one path lies a future that may be quite dark and down the other lies a bright future full of possibilities. Do you see both paths? Are you deciding? That sounds like an easy choice, right? It isn't if alcohol is involved… and that is what has brought you to this crossroad. You know that the path to destruction is paved with continued alcohol abuse. You also know that the path to a bright future requires leaving alcohol behind. So it comes down to this choice really: either you keep drinking or you stop. The choice is yours. Which will it be? Before moving on down either path, let's consider both of your options.

The Path to Destruction:

Chances are, if you have been drinking for a while, you are already on this path and you know it well. For some this is a long and winding path full of pain and suffering. For others it is a quick trip to the inevitable end. You probably are afraid it is too late for you to turn back now. If you are considering turning back, there is still hope for you. But if you keep drinking and traveling this way, you stand to destroy everything in your life and quite possibly lose it before you were meant to. Your alcohol abuse is taking its toll on you in a few major areas: your relationships, your work, your body, and your mind.

The Path of Possibilities:

If you stop learn how to quit drinking alcohol now you can change your life. You can rebuild relationships. You can concentrate on your career. You can halt the rapid deterioration of your body and your mind. If you stop drinking now, you can save your life and redirect your future.

Does this path sound appealing? Of course, it does. But how do you begin down this path? How do you stop drinking and take control of your destiny once again?

First you must ask yourself one question: Do you want to stop drinking? If the answer is yes, make sure you mean it. Only you can learn how to quit drinking, nobody else can teach you. Admit that you have a problem and then declare that you will not take another drink. Stop right now.

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How to Quit Drinking Alcohol - Acknowledging Triggers and Cravings

How to Quit Drinking Alcohol - Acknowledging Triggers and Cravings

How to Quit Drinking Alcohol - Acknowledging Triggers and Cravings

What are triggers? They are the people, places, or situations that cause you to want to drink. They are different for every drinker. They are things that you need to avoid when you are stopping drinking. Drinking buddies may be a "people" trigger. You may have to avoid them altogether or at least until you have a handle on quitting. If you always drink at a baseball game or at any other event, you may have to avoid that "place" trigger for a while. When you can learn to enjoy those events without alcohol, you can return to them. You may have a harder time avoiding situations that trigger your drinking. Parties are easily avoided with the help of friends who understand what you are going through. Stressful situations that arise out of nowhere may be harder to deal with. That is when you lean upon your support system and look for healthier ways to fight stress.

What are cravings? Cravings are those internal longings for alcohol. These are harder to avoid. When a craving comes on, talk to someone from your support system. Sometimes talking about the issue or feeling can get you through it. Try distraction to help get you through. A walk, a run, or a chore may keep your mind off your craving until it passes. Sit down and think about why you are not drinking. Is this craving really worth losing all the progress you have made? Is it worth sacrificing the new life you have? Just know that cravings are normal. They lessen with time. Don't ignore them, but work through them.

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